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High School Benediction
by John A. Sullivan III on 10-Jun-09 09:32

Thank you, Lord, for educating us beyond our books and our classrooms.
Thank you, Lord, for all the unfairness we have experienced
  for it has taught us the importance of Your Justice.
Thank you, Lord, for all the difficult times, for the

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The Real Tragedy of Abortion
by John A. Sullivan III on 08-Feb-09 21:10

Those of us who struggle, work, and pray to end the self-genocide of abortion must not forget that pro-choice proponents do identify legitimate problems. They are not all raging, hate-filled, self-absorbed, hedonists.

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Other Religions
by John A. Sullivan III on 26-Nov-08 11:28

Do please read this entry at face value as it is easily misinterpreted. Some will think it an expression of Christian arrogance while others may think it says one's choice of religion doesn't matter.

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Love and Employment

I believe one of the great challenges of the spiritual journey is to get beyond the blindness of "yeah, I do that already." This is nowhere more true than when we speak of love. Most of us agree love is good and view ourselves as loving yet I fear many of us are clueless and love very little. I'd be delighted to be wrong but let's look at a practical acid test found in the Bible.

Matthew 20 begins with the parable of the vineyard owner and the laborer. In briefest summary, the owner goes out at the beginning of the day and hires some laborers to harvest his grapes. He goes out at various stages during the day, encounters people he did not find previously and hires them into his vineyard including some at the last hour before the work day's end. At the end of the day, when it is time to pay the workers, the owner pays them each a full day's wage including those who labored only an hour. The ones hired at the beginning are furious because those hired at the end are paid the same as they who labored all day long. The owner replies that he did not cheat them; he paid them exactly as agreed. He then asks, "Are you envious because I am generous?"

It just so happens this vineyard owner (God) has unlimited resources so this parable is not a lesson in 21st century labor relations or economics. Nor is it really a parable about love but, if we transport this account to our day and age and the people we know, what might their reactions be and what would those reactions tell us about how well we love in practice?

Let's extend the parable by another day. The vineyard owner has been very loving. He certainly was not obligated to pay those hired at the end of the day a full day's wage but he did so anyway. Love is like that; it does what it doesn't have to do just because. Sadly, if this had happened for real, what do you think would have occurred the next day?

Perhaps some would have been inspired by the owner's generosity, sought to find him early and work extra hard for him. That could be a loving response. However, I bet a large number of those laborers hid and showed themselves later in the day so they could be the ones who worked only an hour yet received a full day's pay. In other words, they would give as little as possible to receive their daily wage. It reminds me of working low wage jobs during college and being chided for working hard by those who repeatedly said, "minimum work for minimum wage."

What would you have done the next day? What about those you know? When put to a real world, practical test like this, are we seeking to get as much as we can for ourselves or give as much as we can to others? Are we living for self or are we living for love? As we discuss in The Christian Journey, the two are opposites. I must ask myself, which describes me?

 

 

Virginia
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work and love/work as love?
Reply #7 on : Sun August 24, 2008, 19:33:52
I'd really like to see a discussion develop on this theme because attitudes towards work and payment for it are affected by such cultural trends as feelings of entitlement, a confusion (my perception) of wants and needs, wealth as the primary "proof" of success or even personal value. So this is an area in which Christian values need to be lived and voiced in homes, schools and the marketplace. God has blessed me with many friends and colleagues who truly live and work for love but I have also been challenged by some who felt my dedication to be foolish or "old-fashioned". There is also the element of being involved in work that feeds one's spirit rather than "the daily grind". If the love comes more easily is it less?
jsullivan
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The flow of expectations in a world of corporate greed
Reply #6 on : Mon August 25, 2008, 11:58:37
Interesting points and questions. In a world that has been selfish from (almost) day one, I don't think corporations have ever been particularly benevolent (with some exceptions) except when it is in their best interest to be so. I believe some companies are truly visionary and realize sustainability is achieved by edifying one's stakeholders including one's employees rather than consuming them. However, for organizations focused simply on tomorrow's share price, employees are objects for consumption for the sake of "shareholder value." So what do we do in the face of such subtle or overt greed? The same as Christians always do; we love.
If I ever get around to writing the Guideposts Along the Christian Journey book, I'll discuss the concept of the "Flow of Expectations." Most of us have expectations and for most of us they flow from other toward ourselves. We have expectations of our employers, our neighbors and our spouses toward ourselves. The problem is the flow is in the wrong direction (and also outside of our control). As Christians, we need to reverse the flow of expectations, i.e., forget what we expect from others toward ourselves and focus on what we expect from ourselves toward others.
In this discussion, it is another way of saying our employer's behavior has minimized effect on how we work. Our expectation of ourselves is that we will give as much as we can to our employer no matter what comes back. That does not mean we do not seek a change of employment if we are in a bad environment. It just means we love in the moment no matter where we find ourselves.
I would wholeheartedly agree that prosperity is not the sole measure of success. It is also not to be completely disregarded. Is it worth having less in exchange for enjoying what we do, to have more time for our families, our God and for serving others, to be happier people? I personally believe the answer is yes as long as we do not become burdensome to others because of our choices. I greatly admire those willing to work for so little in social services in order to improve the lives of others. I tip my hat to those willing to have less but love what they do.
While it is good that we love our work and do what we love, we ultimately need to reach deeper. The most fundamental question is how do we love God whom we love. The next level is how we love His creation including our fellow human beings. So it is not how much we make or how much we love our job but how much we love which is important.
The answer to that question can take endless forms. If we are blessed so that the way we are called to love is to do what we love - wonderful. On the other hand, if the way we are called to love is to do what we loathe to do - be it make a lot of money so we can support those in need, be it work an ill paying job so we can help those in need, or be it hang on a cross for the redemption of mankind, so be it: Behold the handmaid of the Lord; be it done unto me according to your will.
If the love comes more easily, is it less? Only God knows and we will only have the ability to truly love doing what we love if God grants us the grace to love selflessly. Otherwise, it is just more selfish love.
That's the beauty of God's love through His grace. If we do what we love because we love it, it is shallow. If we do sacrificial love because we are being responsible or in order to obtain its reward, we are still being selfish. The one who truly loves while doing what they love is loving more than the sacrificer selfishly seeking their reward. The one advantage of sacrificial love is it is less likely to be masking selfishness but it is no guarantee.
Thus, I suppose the important thing is to love whether it is easy or hard - love trusting God to make us love rather than loving in our selfish, human way. This makes our lives and our jobs holy no matter what they are and no matter what they pay. At least, that's how I look at it.
Virginia
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'sacrificial' love
Reply #5 on : Wed August 27, 2008, 22:54:03
You offered a lot to think about once again. I agree with your saying about the flow of expectations.

I wasn't think so much in terms of loving/giving to the employer per se ... again, my work has never been within a corporation ... but of looking at the job as a piece of something greater. So working at Ames, for example, picking up after careless shoppers and restoring order wasn't something I did with my employer in mind so much as creating a good environment for co-workers and the next shoppers, just trying to make a small corner of the universe harmonious, some reflection of God's peace and order. In school, love was the job in a host of ways - love wasn't all, by itself not enough, as teaching and learning have to be accomplished, but without love nothing is enough.

When you speak of sacrificial love, are you always including an element of going against one's own will as surety against selfishness? I understand that concept of sacrifice. And often we find ourselves feeling stripped of all choice except that of attitude. But what about the notion of sacrifice as making something sacred? Isn't that what's given "when the switch is on"?

So, I guess, I've just taken a circuitous route to the same conclusion - love and trust God to grow His love in and through us.
jsullivan
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All for love
Reply #4 on : Thu August 28, 2008, 13:22:06
As always, thanks for such thoughtful comments and thanks for clarifying the question. Of course, it was probably always clear and I just hijacked the subject for what was on my mind!

I agree entirely with your central paragraph. Our lives are holy and we are to make the world holy by bringing God's love into every single action, thought and word in our lives just as you describe (II Cor 10:5).

Thank you also for asking me to clarify my terms. I suppose I use "sacrificial love" to describe love which is not easy, which exacts some price from us be it financial, emotional, physical. Dietrich Bonhoeffer defined the inverse when he spoke of "cheap grace."

In some ways, it is a disservice to define sacrificial love separately from love. There really is no difference; love is love. When the switch is on, to use terminology from The Christian Journey, we have love - no adjectives attached.

Oops! I feel a long digression coming on - not originally intended :)

Fundamentally, sacrificial love is no better than any other kind of true, godly love (not that there is any "kind" of true, godly love). It can indeed be defiled by selfishness, vanity or spiritual gymnastics and inferior to a purer love expressed while doing something we also happen to enjoy. It is just less likely to be tainted. When God loves by receiving our praise with an elated heart, He is no less loving than when hanging on a cross. The love of the cross is just so isolated from self-reinforcement that it makes the love easier to see for our sake; it sets love in greater relief than when we see His love raising the dead, healing the sick or holding children.

On the other hand, in Catholic theology we believe suffering to be salvific, i.e., by embracing our sufferings in love we can bring about good be it conversions or accelerating the process of learning perfect love and atoning for the practical, temporal consequences of sin among the departed souls who are not yet perfected for life in Heaven (purgatory). Although God could do this Himself, He allows us to do it (again akin to a little child following their parent on a construction site with their little plastic hammer) so that, by embracing our suffering, we are allowed to imitate in the tiniest way the voluntary, embraced suffering of Jesus' passion and death ("Pour forth we beseech you, O Lord, your grace into our hearts that we to whom the incarnation of Christ was made known by the message of an angel may by His passion and cross be brought to the glory of His resurrection . . ." - concluding prayer of the Angelus).

To rephrase it, we can further the salvation of souls in a way similar to Jesus' sacrifice on the cross not apart from Jesus' sacrifice but by His invitation for us to willingly partake of it (Phili 3:10, Col 1:24, Rom 8:17). This gives rise to the practice of seeking mortifications - not for self-exaltation, to gain points, or our personal catharsis but as a very deep imitation of the love of Christ. It also underpins the concept of indulgences - not as a spiritual accounting system but as a God given way (an economy to use the technical term) for us to express love in imitation of the sacrificial love of the Cross. It doesn't have to be that way and we don't have to do it. God gives it as a gift to us to allow us to more fully imitate Him and thus learn His love by experience and in our bodies rather than just in our heads.

So, in that sense, because God has so ordained it, there is some special treatment for sacrificial love. Other than that, love is love. Sacrifice just makes it stand in greater relief.

Did I clarify my terms or just hijack the thread again :)
Last Edit: August 28, 2008, 13:25:03 by jsullivan  
Virginia
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mortification - invitation
Reply #3 on : Fri August 29, 2008, 15:12:28
Hmm. I am never sure if I am hijacker or hitch-hiker but I am sure of my gratitude to you for taking time for my questions.
It's interesting how sometimes a turn of phrase will create an opening of consciousness/awareness of some knowledge stored away, not seen clearly til now due to accumulated dust. So with your speaking of "learning His Love by experience and in our bodies rather than just in our heads" is such a one.
Thank you.
jtad4111
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work
Reply #2 on : Tue March 17, 2009, 19:06:05
I don't love my job but everyday as I walk into my unit I say " please God get me through this day. Sometimes There are days when I feel I can't please anybody and at the end of the day I just want to go home and cry.
I try to do th best I can for my patients but most of the I leave feeling I could have done more.
I din't want t be a nurse. I tried everything I could to avoid but here I am in my 4th year of working
critical care.
I figure God must have wanted me here since did everythig I could to avoid being a nurse. Some days are just brutal but I try treat the person the bed the way I would want my fanily cared for. But there are also days I feel will never end and I'm just physically and emotionaly exhausted.It's during these times I pray the hardest for me and my patients. I just know I need a lot of prayer to get though each day I work.Some of my patients make it very hard to love them and there are some rare days I feel God is all around , especially when I'm taking care of a patient that we all know is going to die no matter what we do.
I don't know if all this is off topic. I apologise if it is.
jsullivan
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So admirable
Reply #1 on : Tue March 17, 2009, 20:04:13
Hi, jtad. There's so much in what you write that is truly admirable. I can't imagine what it must mean to a person in a hospital to have someone sincerely treat them the way they would want their own family treated. It reflects a lot of character especially if the job is not something you love. Likewise, your dependence on prayer to make it through the day.
I can somewhat relate. There were so many careers I wanted to pursue as a young adult - physics, opera, medical research, writing, teaching, just about everything was interesting. The only two things I said I never wanted to do were concrete construction supply and computers. Guess what I've done for the last twenty-six years! Ten years in concrete construction supply and now 16 in IT. There were so many days in those first ten years when I'd go to my car to pray literally in tears feeling like such a square peg in a round hole. God accomplished much in those years.
On the other hand, you have such a great opportunity to love on your job. You really don't need to please anyone. That's not what God asks of you and it may reflect some very deep issues that He wants to surface. He only asks two things of you - to love and be loved.
Have you ever read anything by Mother Teresa of Calcutta? You may find her work among the sick and dying very pertinent and helpful to your current situation. Peace - John

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